Making life fun sounds like an easy thing to do? After all, isn’t that simply hanging with friends, enjoying good food, listening to music or stimulating conversation and sharing life with like-minded people?
Sounds simple, right? Unfortunately, it’s not always that easy. It’s very common for me to hear, “I’m just not enjoying life anymore. Everything seems hard.”
For some people having fun is a daunting task. It means finding the time to pull yourself from the mental stressors of life or a demanding career. You’ll need quality friends with whom you enjoy spending time. You may have financial issues making it hard to pay for a costly dinner, buy tickets, or pay for recreational activities. Even if it’s a challenge, there are so many ways to have fun, these issues don’t have to stop you – unless you let them.
Making life fun starts with experiencing the joy that comes from a vibrant relationship with Jesus Christ. Then, through Him, you find the emotional capacity to laugh, play and enjoy special moments, even when life is tough. Did you know that you can choose to make life fun most of the time and experience joy all the time? Yes! It’s really up to you and how you choose to view your circumstances.
It’s a lot easier to skip the fun, avoid the hassle of getting over whatever is trying to steal your smile, and spend the time at home, work, or doing something that keeps you in your comfort zone and away from relationship challenges.
But seriously – you will enjoy life much more if you invest in other people – even it takes some effort.
If you’ve spent too much time alone or at work, avoiding the hassle of building relationships and enjoying life, make a decision to stop and say, “No,” to yourself. Say NO to the island called me, myself, and I. Say NO to avoiding relationships and connections that help you grow. Say NO to using work and other excuses to help you avoid getting out and making life fun.
Here’s why you have to say NO.
Spending too much time alone can create a closed and narrow vision that’s not healthy for emotional, spiritual and social growth. It’s also not healthy for professional development. We all need to hear the perspectives of other people. We need to expand our thinking and share our thoughts with others. We need to love and care for people – to feel loved and cared for by others. Work, busyness, and passionate pursuits offer great opportunities, but you still need balance for sustainability, rest, and opportunities to share life with other people. Even if you’re busy with a career – how can you market to a changing population of people who you never experience? Demographic studies can only take you so far. You need quality time with other people and you might as well make it fun!
In the Bible, God encourages us to live in community and share our lives with each other (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12). We’re not designed to live alone like an island. Decide today, to make the most of your opportunities. Experience God’s joy and enjoy life.
Here are some ideas to help you make life fun:
Don’t wait. If you can’t find anyone, go to a place where you can enjoy other people. You can take a dance class, go to a sports event, or a church activity. Look for engaging activities that encourage interaction with others.
- Tell people you’re looking for things to do. You likely know people who hang out often. They are usually eager to share their insight on what’s happening in your city.
- If you have the money, buy two tickets and offer a free ticket to a friend to go with you to an event.
- Be flexible. It you haven’t been out in a while, you may be a little cranky. It’s OK if people play music a little loud. It’s OK if someone brings a guest that you didn’t plan to see or if they arrive a little late. Whatever is holding you back and making you say no – let it go – be flexible. When you’re having fun, some things just don’t matter.
- Look for activities at your church and join your church’s small group ministry, if that’s available. You may be surprised at how rewarding it feels to share meaningful activities with like-minded people who share the same faith. Some of the best friendships begin at church.
- Smile more. When you haven’t been out having fun, your smile can quietly diminish into a dull expression that says, “Don’t bother me.” Instead, practice being inviting, smiling, and demonstrating an attitude of joy. People are very attracted to a kind and energetic demeanor.
Life is short. You will have battles and challenges with no effort of your own. When things are tough be encouraged and comforted by the joy that God gives. Other times, if you choose, you can make life fun, in spite of what’s happening around you. Having fun doesn’t mean you don’t have any problems. It just means on this day, you chose to lighten up, laugh, play and enjoy every breath that God has given – no matter what.
Me? I’m going to start golfing again.
What will you do to make life fun? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
Rhonda Ware Williams is a Life Coach who offers solutions for optimized Christian living. For updates on her book, It’s One O’clock: A Powerful Strategy for Making Smart Decisions in Tough Situations, and more posts like this one, register on this website.